Why do you need to improve your EQ? Because people with high emotional stats are more successful in all areas of life: social, emotional, physical, and financial. Their success is due to the fact that almost life involves interacting with others, and people with high EQ always make people more satisfied when communicating with them. Besides, high-EQ people can achieve goals more easily than others.
EQ is not always easy to change in a day, but with a little effort, almost anyone can improve their emotional stats with training, introspection, and acquisition. The good news is that the EQ will naturally increase with age, even if you don’t want to increase it intentionally.
There are 4 factors that support a person with good feelings:
People with high EQ are self-aware. Instead of just feeling without understanding the basis, they can trace the source of their emotions and examine them logically. They also grasp the strengths and weaknesses in a practical way.
People with high EQ manage themselves. They can mold themselves into a pattern, drilling to be satisfied, respond to the needs of others, and then balance their desires accordingly. They can also walk between the lines of creativity and patience. They will manage the changes and are committed to continuing to pursue them.
People with high EQ are people with social awareness. They understand and “tune in” the emotions of others and recognize nonverbal social cues. They may also see interactions between individuals within groups or larger organizations.
People with high EQ are good at managing relationships. They treat people well, inspire and influence people in positive ways, communicate well, and actively manage conflicts.
In short, people with high EQ draw loops that let you in and make you want to stay on their rings. How do you know if you have a high EQ? One way is to look at the things that people with high emotion stats don’t do.
1. They do not react hastily
Instead of reacting, they devise solutions. Life is full of people who are stressed. Each person has their own arena. However, people with high EQ learn to proactively react to difficult situations. They learn to calm down and relax in situations where people with low EQs start to panic and panic. They inhibit their tendencies for emotional responses and connect with their reasoning ability to deal with stress management activities.
A person with a high EQ knows not to make a decision when angry, in pain, or in fear. They refrain themselves to get in a better state of mind and then make better decisions after reminiscing about a situation where they were happy.
2. They don’t stay away from new experiences, ideas, or people
I’m not saying people with high EQ don’t have strong beliefs or ideas. They do. However, they are not afraid to learn more about other perspectives or to challenge their beliefs. They are very open in thinking, not obstinate. They are wisely curious. They often have friends around the end of the street. They are always looking for new possibilities. They understand that they cannot always be right, and they are humble enough to accept that there is much more they can learn.
Even if they disagree with an opinion, they examine why their first reflex has disliked the idea and analyze for themselves why it happened. They don’t behave on pure emotions but react intelligently.
People with high EQ see the best in others. They are not afraid to accept help from others because they know their shortcomings and listen to reliable advice when needed.
People with high EQ are not afraid to change and don’t need rules or barriers to help them feel safe. They are not emotionally “like meeting people if they don’t like it” and don’t hold back from showing intimacy with those they love. They are not afraid to let their beliefs and ideals be challenged. They are not stubbornly clinging to concepts to refuse to examine the new facts that are unfolding in front of them.
3. They don’t just focus on themselves
This doesn’t mean that people with high EQ don’t take time for themselves when needed. Actually, it is not good to sink into a state of torment. However, people with high EQ are very sympathetic to others. When dealing with people, focus your attention outward rather than just looking at yourself. Instead of seeing things under their own personal lens, with their own needs and wants, they are able to see the world from a broader perspective, able to understand others before judging them. They are also more forgiving towards themselves and towards others.
A person with a high EQ does not attack, judge, interrupt, deny, criticize, command, teach, or blame others. Nor do they try to dissect others when they share their feelings. They are not jealous of those close to success but celebrate their victory with them.